Steps to Successful Goal Setting for The Emerging Woman™

I realized recently, the last several years of my life have been about discovery and emergence. The cocoon holding my existence began to break open in January of 2010 when I decided I never wanted to look at the year ahead, as mirroring the year I’d left behind. I began to look at life with goal setting in mind rather than resolutions that often never come to fruition.

That specific change in approach was the catalyst for my life today and I’m so grateful. I did a vision board that year, and wouldn’t you know it… I actually achieved a lot of what I’d hoped for! In the years that followed I recognized the importance yearly goal setting and putting time expectations on those goals.

There’s something so powerful about being the age I am because it’s just like playing football or hockey. The game doesn’t go on forever, so it creates a sense of urgency. It’s incredibly motivating.

I also learned that goals can shift and change as we approach the finish line… and that’s okay. Last year, while I was awaiting my book’s release, I remember believing the only audience for my book would be those who’ve had a child die. I was so wrong.

My Vision Board
Suddenly, a larger audience, one I never envisioned, began buying my book:  therapists, clinics, friends and family of those who have lost children. What I didn’t expect was the outpouring of people who feel helpless when it comes to loss, and my book was their way of contributing.

This has taught me not to restrict my thinking or my expectations. I need to start leaving room for my goals to grow bigger than I’m capable of dreaming.

I'm planning on making 2015 my best year ever! I hope you will join me. Here's what I learned from setting goals last year and watching how they evolved:
  1. I don't have to know everything in order to move forward with my plan. I can build some of it as I go.
  2. I'm not Wonder Woman. I don't have to do everything. I can do what I love, and hire out the rest.
  3. Being on the computer doesn't mean I'm working. I need to set clearly defined times for posting on social networks, emails, etc.
  4. Sometimes when things don't happen the way I want, it's actually the better plan. I’m now aware that goals might shift, change, and possibly grow bigger as they come to fruition.
  5. Consistency makes me better at what I do.
  6. I need to honor myself for what I HAVE done. Sometimes I don't give myself enough credit. 
  7. Today is all we really have. Make it count.
So... have you set your goals? I hope so! Don't know where to start? Receive your free worksheet by clicking here and hang it where you can look at it every day. You’ll be surprised at what you accomplish!
I can promise, if you set these goals in writing you are more likely to achieve them according to studies done at the Dominican University of California. I did this exercise in 2012 and set the goal to write my book, How To Survive the Worst that can Happen in a year. It was published almost a year to the day I began! Today, I’m so proud it has achieved 5 awards and reaching the people it was meant to help.

I was recently inspired by Michael Hyatt and his program 5 Days to the Best Year Ever. His program keeps me on course. One thing he taught me- Goals have to evoke real passion or you won’t do them. Give your goals some excitement and challenge. That’s why I recommend only setting 5 goals. That is doable!

Time to set your goals…the clock is ticking! I leave you with this thought from Philosopher and Theologian, Howard Thurman:

"Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive."

And that’s exactly what I intend to do. I hope you’ll join me.

Best wishes,












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Sandy Peckinpah writes and speaks on finding happiness, surviving loss and activating resilience. Her new award winning book entitled, "How to Survive the Worst that Can Happen" is a parent's step by step guide for healing after the loss of a child, based on her own experience of losing her 16 year old son. She is a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist® with the Grief Recovery Institute® in Los Angeles. 



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4 comments:

  1. I don't set resolutions nor annual goals, but at the start of 2014 I chose a guiding word for my year. It was truly life changing. It shaped how I acted, reacted, and even able to be proactive about certain events. My word for 2014 was acceptance. It was a sort of mantra to breathe through in some very tough moments.

    My word for 2015 is light. I want to let some dreams see light. I want to shine light on old unhealed wounds to help them heal. I want to shine spot lights on some of my magnificent friends & their accomplishments toward their own goals. And in dark moments I want to remind myself to see the light - to see the stars in the darkness.

    I've found this a much more powerful tool for the beginning of a new year. At least for me. It helps to guide my every choice through the year. It's wonderful knowing that for everything that happens over the course of the year, good and bad, I'll have already made a decision on how to handle it. It's just the fine details that need sorting. :)

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    1. I love that idea Cyn! I love the idea of a word for the year! Mine this year is Emerge. I'm going to be writing a lot about it! Looking forward to reading more about your year! xo

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    2. Have you done a pinterest board for it? I saw you were on pinterest! On nights when I can't settle my brain to sleep I go searching for pins for my guiding word board. This lets me fall asleep with thoughts guided by my special word. :)

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    3. Also, Emerge is a fantastic guiding word! I'm looking forward to seeing how it guides your year.

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